Dating a greek orthodox man
Yes we greek men tend to be more chauvinistic, but we also work our asses off to give everything to our family. It is because of our Greek pride, customs, and our work ethic us why we protect women and children from those described in your article. I am an American woman who is engaged to a Greek man. Too many Greek men make their Greekness an issue because it grants them privileges. Anyway i forwarded this to my wife, see if she contributes Lol its funny now. As a result, it would be very meaningful dating a greek orthodox man him to have an Orthodox wedding ceremony.
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Should I ran away now from a Greek man. View June 24, Doesn't matter what they think,its your life. He understands that for something like this to be successful it needs to be able to protect the user and the business. This post, however, has clued me in on a few things I need to clarify if the relationship goes to the next level. Greek dating site free.
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Do most look for other Greek Orthodox to date? Are you sure you want to delete this answer? Eve, first of all stop asking that many questions about that guy you like: If you are talking about a greek guy that lives in Greece then although most of us are orthodox i doubt if we care that much about finding an orthodox girl. For sure i dont know any greeks that would be strict with what our religion says, for example about having sex before marriage. They dont pray to meet the spouce or even gf that God desires, about marriage i could say their mother could influence them more than God: On the other hand, if the guy lives abroad his family and him would probably like to meet and marry a greek girl and it is also very probable that religions is a major part of his life but forget that thing about praying to God.
Btw, there are people that are very religious and I dont know how they behave since i am not one of them. Although My Big Fat Greek Wedding support's the fact that people of the Greek Orthodox religion should date someone like them, it actually doesn't matter. I, for one, am Greek Orthodox and I don't think my parents are going to care if i dat e someone that isn't Greek Orthodox, or at least I hope not.
Yes, I am sure they would like it, but that shouldn't be the top priority. Is this guy really religious? I did my research and presented the argument to their priest and there was nothing they could say. I was married in the Greek Orthodox church and we are raising our family GO.
As for the gambling, I put my foot down - hard - and he stopped. I had to make threats and it worked. I have 3 boys now, and I am trying not to raise them to be mammoni, but unfortunately, it seems to be innate in their blood. My brother and all my uncles were mammoni too, so I know what this is all about. I guess we have been able to make our marriage work because we BOTH make compromises when necessary even if we have to have a huge argument to humble ourselves to come to that conclusion and I always voice my opinions and don't hold back or bottle them up inside.
He is Greek I am foreign Mother-in-laws: They dont understand the word privacy, its hillarious.. A wise greek woman once told me: The mother will not realize it but you will boil over? Discuss and come to an aggreement afterwards when you are alone. Show them that you are family oriented.
Be flexible, dont analize them too much. Visit the ill relatives,go out of your way, show genuine interest.. After the wedding they will throw their hands in the air and say "ti na kanoume" and will begin to love you and you will win their hearts. You will weep when she dies.
My friend is a Greek woman who married a non-Greek man. Her family, especially the father, were totally against it and war ensued in that house for a year or so So my advice to you is be strong and just go for what your heart wants In all other ways they are exactly the same. You would be surprised how many Jews actually marry Greeks.
The ones who are Greek purely based on genetics but who have free minds are the safest bet for a happy marriage. Too many Greek men make their Greekness an issue because it grants them privileges. Alternatively, a lot of Greek women seek to escape their Greekness for the opposite reason. Hi, My son had a relationship with a lovely Greek girl, but her maternal grandmother dissapproves of her seeing my son who is not Greek.
He is mixed Anglo Saxon and Chinese. He is a handsome engineer and has a good job. They really want to be together but she has decided to choose her family understandably so. My son is so heart broken because he knows that deep down she wants to be with him.
I believe she is also heart broken. What is the best advice for them? Should my son do his best to win her grandmother over he's never even met her or just give up on her. They are in their early twenties. I am married to a Greek man and believe me it is very difficult. He is attached to his mother and sister as if he were still breastfeeding. His sister is never expected to contribute anything to help the family out but I am since I am married to the "leader" of the family. His family could be overbearing in their concerns about everything and yes the drama I wish there was more time of less drama and more getting along.
Should I voice my opinion about his family I am the bad guy. When we get along we are great but those spats in between seem to more or less revolve around his mother and sister. I sometimes think I should have not married a Greek man but someone more independent and not still suckling on his mothers breast.
Where do I begin? I am from NY and my long term boyfriend is Greek American. I am fully aare that many multi cultural couples deal with issues but this is beyond ridiculous. His parents have lived in NY for 30 years but were born in Greece. They are completely not accepting our relationship. I have only met them one time in 3 years and it was for them to tell me for and hour why I am no good and we should not be together.
He has 2 sisters who are worse than his mother and countless cousins. I have yet to be invited to a family function or holiday and do not think our relationship will last. The thought of being hated by so many when they don't even know you is mentally exausting. He plays both sides of the fence. I do not reccommend this to anyone I wish you luck if this is the path you choose. I have been married to a Greek American for 12 yrs now. I have found him to be very Metro Sexual,dramatic,stuck to his mom's Nips,a bit feminine.
He has to have everything in it's place including me which usually doen't work out to well for him. We are both clean fanatics by most peoples accounts,so we do have something in common. I know they say opposites attract,but those very opposites can pull you apart! I have never met a man who is so unromantic in all my life. I am 47 yrs old and I have been around the block a few times. Don't do this,why do you drink a beer from a bottle,ladies don't do that,do it this way. It is nothing more than a big show and a put on of the greatest fanily filled with love.
In reality,they have unkind words about eachother yet get two-faced at gatherings. They turn their boys into what they want them to be and not let young boys in puberty be well They teach them to "sit down to pee",which I find too feminine.
The Greeks are loud people and love to over talk other's. You are always wrong no matter what! Thank God I never had any children by my husband. To my husband I am "beneath" him. It is true that Greek men want companionship but not an equal partner! I been married three times with a greek man and I was very happy with every one.
I adore greek culture and greek love. They are number one for me. It's my best relationship so far,although I ve been engaged twice to Romanian men,I'd never get back to dating Romanians even if they would be the last men on this planet.. My bf is 2 years younger than me, he's a medical student,final year,doesn't work,studies like crazy, we met online,as stupid as it sounds,and since day one of exchanging emails without meeting in person i felt he could be my One..
I wanna learn Greek too,we already hinted at a common future together, he's been here,I'be been to Athens, I'm going there again for New Year's.. I still haven't met the parents, he really wants me to meet them,and from all he said and what they did for me, it seems they're over all the negative things and the initial shock of me not being Greek,etc Your opinions have been a great help,so I wanted to post mine too,maybe someone who has found such an amazing Greek man too will find them useful..
He really knows how to treat me,he's a man in all ways and makes me feel like the most gorgeous woman on Earth.. I have fallen in love with him and he has too with me..
I hope we'll stay together.. I am Irish and met my Greek God 2 yrs agoe. He liked his Ouzo. He was very direct with his comments which at times embarrassed me but over time Ive learned that his directness is not meant to offend, he just doesnt know a better way of saying things. His Ouzo intake has dramatically reduced, he works very hard and he loves to cook. The downside, he makes a lot of mess which I have to clean up. His Hard outer shell hides a soft interior and I love him to bits.
His parents passed away long agoe but the rest of his family are lovely. The one and only thing that we argue over is the fact I dont speak Greek I am learning but it is difficult. We both have our cultural differences but accept them. I consider myself very lucky that I met him, he has made my life very interesting and Ive learned a lot over the past two years. I think my case is somewhat different.
Being Greek i thought i would never say this but i never liked Greek men. In all, they are NOT charming, NOT interesting, NOT faithful to any promises they make and they are so brain washed about their "role" in the society that makes me sick. They all had something in common: Somehow i had to agree with whatever they said as correct, i had to suffer verbal abuse for no reason, i had to follow them everywhere and when they wanted to be alone i had to leave them alone.
I had to cook for them, i had to care for them unconditionally even when they were verbally abusive!!! I had dated many different kinds of Greek men to see if something affects their behaviour my own social experiment and they all were the same. I dated men from the big city, men from the country side, men who had lived in a foreign country, men who were independent from parents since young age, men who were dependent on their parents for money. I can tell you that they all were the same And i happen NOT to like that attitude nor the way they think.
Am not raised by my mom to be someones maid and i would like very much to have my opinion on matters, even if that means disagreeing. Its not the end of the world when things go wrong I have nothing to relate to with greek men, although i was born and raised in Greece.
Honestly before i met my american husband, i was on the verge of depression. I thought i would end up alone in life because of how greek men thought. My husband has said more than once that he loves my "greekness". All the little quirks that make me greek. But am not giving him a hard with greek way of life. In fact he was insisting on marrying at a greek church the orthodox way, when i was the one begging for a civil wedding. He wanted the big fat greek wedding, i wanted something small and cosy,30 people the most: He is not greek either.
Not one hint of greek blood in him. German and British mostly! I found the posts most interesting and informative. I do however wonder why most non Greek women are requiered to convert to the Orthodox religion when they want to marry a Greek man? I moved to Greece in August from London, UK to marry my Greek man but I have no intention of converting to the Orthodox religion or naming our kids after my partner's parents names?
I believe that real love will not require you to give up who you are and what you believe in in order to be accepted; No wonder divorse is on the increase in Greece 1 million greeks are divorced to date not only in bi-cultural marriages but in Greek manaraged too.
I live in the U. He can be wonderful, but also stubborn and close-minded. The fights we have had always deal with his intense and sometime irrational loyalty to his mother and brother. His mother, who is needy and lonely, recently broke her leg and he is with her constantly. I get only an ocasional phone call from him. His brother, on the other hand, gets a pass because he is always at the family liquor store, which has been losing money and close to bankruptcy for years, but which he insists on keeping open because "it's all he knows.
I have been dating a greek guy for 8 months. And we already dont get along because the culture is so differnt but im used to that because i dated a russian guys for 2 years and his parents hated me.
But his parents arent that bad they just dont say much. Its all about him, hes very selffess. And hes not afficiant person very distant, only time hes afficiant is when he wants to make love. I have recently over the past 6 months become involved with the man of my dreams And yes, he is Greek but I am an Australian I had been friends with him over a period of approximately 5 years before we became a couple so you could say, we got all the problems out of the way first before we entered our relationship.
I am a woman that, how would you say, wants to be swept off her feet by the cavaleer but still wants to be my own person He has always allowed me to be the person I am and doesn't want me to change for anyone His family have welcomed me with open arms, are helping me to learn to speak Greek and prepare Greek food for which I have a genuine interest in both.
This is the man I know I want to wake up next to for the rest of my life. The only man I have ever truly loved I am british and my husband is greek american we live in greece and have been married for 1 year.
It is very true that it does not matter where a greek is born usa, australia etc when they come to greece the greek side of them rears it head. I am a croatian catholic, from a radical catholic family in the south that has never, does not and probably will never approve of my relationship with a greek orthodox. D However, I am amazed by his family and his greekness. I like it that he's more of a drama queen than i am. We've been together for 3 years, with constant going back and forth from Croatia to greece and vice versa which is darn hard when there are no bloody direct flights and we're thinking of marriage.
I loved this post cause it's so much fun: She was kind of more into him taking care of me than me taking care of him. Dthanks for posting this i love reading these. My Greek boyfriend and I have lived together for 5 years in the UK and moved to Belgium 6 months ago. At the beginning of our relationship he was very 'Greek 'and as things got tough for him, all he talked about was giving up and going back to Greece.
I have found with friends that once they 'go back' that's it- it's very hard to stay open and objective, even for those who have lived abroad. They are surrounded by a very narrow-minded negative and even xenophobic mindset. I'm lucky because Nikos stayed in the UK and changed his attitue to take on opportunities and embrace the British culture as a part of his own.
His temper which often included sulking for days mellowed and all the positives in his character blossomed.
I can definitely identify with many of the posts here- parental approval being the big one. His mother was adamant that I would not be welcome in their home as we were not married.
Within hours of meeting me and for the rest of that 1st week in Greece she constantly apologised to me for being wrong! I am very very lucky with his family, they are all wonderful caring people. To them, I could have three heads but as long as I love Nikos, that's all that matters. However it definitely makes a difference that I make an effort with Greek, patiently visit all the relatives and always offer to help round the house which is usually turned down!
As an aside Nikos is also a fantastic cook in his own right. But then I think that is what being a part of the family is all about, in any culture, not just Greece. My parents have been more difficult as they think that as soon as we marry I am going to be tied to the kitchen sink, shoeless and cast down- which is such nonsense I don't know where to begin!
Nikos and my mother have great difficulty getting along but I maintain that we are very happy and they just have to get on with it. We accept we have cultural differences and we both respect each other's heritage.
Nikos wants to wear a kilt to our wedding in Corfu next year! My general advice in being a relationship with a Greek is to be yourself and don't forget your true value.
Sacrificing your own happiness will not make you any happier with Greek Culture or in your relationship. Don't think about what your families are saying about your relationship- look at what you both get out of it. You're the ones in the relationship, not them! Don't listen to anyone that suggests you are 2nd class because you are not Greek! But finally, the Greeks love to argue noisily and then it's all over and forgotten- give as good as you get and don't take everything to heart.
Oh my goodness, I have been reading these posts and I giggled with Self Pitty to everyone including myself. I have been involved with a Greek American for a couple years and "The Mother" and the "The Father" where do they get off thinking they should be the one to judge and decide the life of their son.
Recently I have put a hault on our relationship as the attitudes and excuses for his family is driving me crazy. We will have plans and poof mom needs something. We will have plans and Poof Dad needs something. It's like they have a radar on him Like oh call he's going on with that girl again. They do get emotional and scream and yell over the stupid things to say to them especially hear them roar when you call them out about his parents.
If you like excuses and defending yourself then date a greek guy but for the love of relationship by some aspirin. I can relate to all the posts and I have seen it all. I am American and although I find extreme potential in my guy I cannot continue to live on how he has become. When we were first met it was all peaches and creme like most relationships but in the end your suggestions do not count.
I think they don't even hear them. We argue a lot, too much as of late and I am beginning the think that this is NOT what I have signed up for. I mean defending what you want to do in life because mom has leg ache and doesn't know what to do. I would like to travel and kayak and play when I am not working not make plans and worry about mom and dad and being Greek Orthodox and speaking Greek.
I mean I didn't speak greek when I met you I am not greek so I will not speak greek now and I was not Greek Orthodox when I met you nor will I become it just because it's the right thing to do so they say. God doesn't Care what religion you are as long as you Love Him "God" then he will take care of you.
Good Luck to all of you I feel your frustration and can relate to all the posts. It's amazing there's so many people typing on topic. I just want to start by saying, that I do love my husband but being married to a Greek Man when your not greek is very hard.
My husband is greek to the core. We met when I was 15, and dated for 10 years before we got married. At first I was not accepted into the family because I wasn't greek. Over time they did learn to love me. My husband pretty much forced me to learn greek, and expects for me to teach I children greek. The older I get the less I want my children to be brought up in this culture. I don't know what to do, it all becoming to much for me to handle. For anybody else who is thinking about marring a greek, and they are not.
I was introduced to a Greek man at an online site. He was,and continues to be able to make me feel like no other man can in ways I can not even describe on here both online and via the phone!
My problem is, I have not ever met him in person. He has, for at least the past 5 years that Ive been in contact with him, lived with, and taken care of his elderly mother with the assistance of a live in caregiver.
I do believe this to be true as I know hes not married or living with someone. He rarely leaves his house either. We have had frequent hour long conversations but due to his mothers language barriers, and poor health, and confusion, he will not develop a relationship other than the one that exists now until she passes..
She is in her 90s and where I would be willing to assist in her care, he wont allow it.. So now I just need to deceide if I care enough to wait another potential 10 years to be with him I know it sounds crazy but I do think hes worth it These are old comments There are lots of challenges in any marriage. I was shocked his mother did his laundry when she came to visit as he was an executive. I realized after marriage that I was working, cleaning, cooking and paying the bills.
So we had a conference to change this My husband cooperated and learned to work with me. I am an independent American woman. My mother-in-law's husband died a week after we were married. So after many years, some with drama and no Greekness, I will say Some people are very prejudice.
I like to call them preferential. People like others who are like themselves. Through the years you'll find we're all the same no matter the culture. Every man every woman for that matter would love to have a secretary, butler or cook not to mention nurse, etc. We are relatively close and visit esp. Those old cultural ideals are fading away.
It's hard sometimes we don't always agree so we agree to disagree on things. I feel we are partners and work together in tandem like a bike. He cooks, she cooks, he works, she works, anyone can drink alcohol or gamble or do antisocial acitivites in any culture. I converted to Catholicism to create harmony in our lives and it has been wonderful. Our children were given this opportunity as well.
It's fun to read this blog, I love anything Greek. I've been all over Greece once and hope to travel there again. It's a lovely country with the history and heritage. It seems normal for a mom to love her son. Our son is very independent of us and that's how our children were raised. But of course, again we're Americans. My mother-in-law was overbearing in the beginning of our marriage I let her have her way with the housework as it really helped with a large family.
But in the beginning I was embarrassed to have her work around our home. It was her expression of love.
That was all she could do. I cried the hardest when she passed away. You see we don't live forever and to love and be loved is a wonderful thing.
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I think he lacks admirable feminine qualities that the modern generation expects the man to have like sharing domestic duties with the woman. He's very fond of saying that when he visits home his mother will ask him if he would like a coffee, his sister will say 'I'll make it' and his grandmother will say 'I've already made one' all the space of about 30 seconds.
Being Greek i thought i would never say this but i never liked Greek men. They are completely not accepting our relationship.
I think this is all a result of being spoiled by a mother dating a greek orthodox man still treats him like a child and a rich father who gives him everything. They expect a mommy figure to clean up after themselves, cook for them and be the sole person orthofox in child rearing. My roots are multi-cultural: We have an open and honest relationship and I believe that this is the key to all relationships. First of dating a greek orthodox man, men from Greece, an advanced society of western Europe, are European men, and as husbands they are like their other European counterparts, like French husbands, Austrian husbands or Spanish husbands, Myself, from Greece, married, I always do my ironing, lot of the cooking, my wife goes out with often without me with her male or female friends etc. It's a lovely country with the history and heritage.
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