I'm Married But In Love With Someone Else

I’m Married But In Love With Someone Else

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You will look back on the beliefs and values that you once held dear that you violated to have her. My husband and I just celebrated 22 years of marriage, and 27 years together, I am 46 and he is I already have two children with my husband.

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I think about this other guy all the time, we talk everyday and he knows the situation with my marriage. I forgave him immediately. I understand that he is a user and that he used me, all the more reason that it is important for ME to somehow know that down deep HE KNOWS what an ass he is and that he knows I am a better person and better off without him. I really thought I could make this work with his as friends, but I cannot. So I decided to concentrate on myself. I have not seen him in almost a year.. Just hang in there!

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We care and we wish to help. Our success rate over the last decade is three out of four marriages saved, even when adultery, porn, anger, or other things have deeply hurt the relationship! Click the banner below to find out more about it. She said that she is in love with another man, I do not accept this since we married each other and our vows were forever till death do us part. Today she spoke to a divorce lawyer on how to proceed with it.

Please help us with your prayers and God bless you all. We will definitely keep you both in our prayers. He can give you more information about our highly effective programs we have to help you save your marriage. Gustavo I am sorry for your pain and hurt. This thing we call marriage can be so painful and hurt so much at the end. It was never meant to be this way yet for so many it ends bad.

I will say a prayer for you and your wife tonight and my god give you the strength to weather through the storm. My wife has recently left me after 13 years and the hurt, pain and love I have for her is never ending. Please turn to the bible and try and get help and assistance during this time of stress.

Please pray for my relationship to last. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and 5 months ago he send a message to another girl to tell her that he loves her.

I have a 1 year old daughter with him and I hope that he will try to make it work. Monika, I am sorry that this has happened.

While I understand that you want to make your relationship work because of your child that you have together, you must also really decide if this is the kind of behavior that you should have to deal with for the rest of your life. Since you are not married yet, you do have the option to decide if you want something better for yourself.

However, you can still make this relationship work. There are some more articles on our website that could help you figure this out. Thank you for this reply. I am still dealing with trust issues because of what happened but he stoped taking to that girl. But even though he has not talked to her for one year I am starting to notice that we are very different.

He is more outgoing and sometimes imberising. I am more quiet and emotional. I still dint know If I should ever get married to him. Thank you for any prayers that will help me decide. It still has not sunk in that he has left.

He already has her in his house im pregnant and have a 3 yr old i really dont know what to do i really love him and will like to work things out. We can definitely help your marriage, and we have seen situations like this in the past. There is still hope. My husband and I have been together for 7 yrs married 4yrs in total and seperated for 2 of those 4yrs. Through out the entire relationship I was the more dominant one.

I worked and he took care of home. I expressed my frustrations time and time again. His sons mother and his mother were disrespectful toward me on occassions and when I expressed how it made me feel he never addressed it.

I eventually started seeing someone else. Through our entire separation my husband has expressed how he wanted his family back. By this time he has been dating other women as well. I agreed to work on us. Since me giving him the green light nothing has happened.

We have meaningless convo. Fran, it is not unusual for a spouse to show intense desire to reconcile a marriage and then once the wandering spouse agrees, they no longer show the same level of interest. In fact, it is common for the spouse wanting to work on the marriage your husband in this case to become angry or even apathetic after the straying spouse concedes to fixing it.

When the spouse is straying, there is a level of fear that propels wanting to get him or her back. Once there is a sense of some kind of security, they let the anger show and get the best of them.

This does not mean that you should go back to not wanting to pursue the marriage. There is help and hope for your situation. It may take some work. It does seem that there is something that keeps pulling one of you back to the relationship…some rope that gives you a reason to try and work it out. I strongly suggest that you look into our workshop for marriages in crisis.

It would turn your marriage around. My husband and I have been together for five years and married for four. We have three children together, 3,2, and a five week old newborn. My husband is in the army and has been deployed for almost nine months now. I never thought my husband would ever cheat on me. If we somehow work through this episode, how can I ever trust him again? Prayers would be much appreciated!! It is possible to save your marriage from an affair, and it is possible to have an even stronger marriage than before after it.

Your husband being in the army means that he has many, many negative consequences that he could face from being involved in an affair, as affairs actually require legal action in the military. If you choose to work on your marriage and do what you can to save it, then you are in a good position to do so. If you want to know more about marriage help, please contact us. After I confronted him, he admitted and said that he was madly in love with her and that their relationship was already beyond sexual.

He confessed that they had 18 month together the other woman is also married. I got angry and get hurt. However I told him I took responsibility for whatever I did wrong that made him go after another woman. I expressed my willing to work on this marriage and make it work despite the infidelity. I asked him to go to counseling with me. Yet he said no.

I asked them both to stop communicating for a while, they both promise they would, but to no avail. He said that he is happy in a way he never was with me and that he regrets marrying me. I can no longer deal with the pain. I can no longer endure how he goes and meets with her. So I decided to move to another state to heal my heart. I wonder is this the right decision? I love him and want nothing more than my marriage to be healed and have the loving relationship we once had.

If leaving at least for now is the right decision. Your prayers are most needed and appreciated. It is a hard decision that you have made, but as long as you have expressed to your spouse that you wish to save the marriage and he refuses to no avail, then the time comes that he must deal with consequences of his actions. We have some podcasts related to this topic as well. I suggest that you check those out. My husband and I have been married for He had his first affair that I know of for sure after our second child—a boy—when we were married 8 years.

We went through marriage and individual counseling for 3 years and stayed together. We thought we were stronger than even and he promised that he would never hurt me like that again. He would go she her at her office and not come by to see me. When he admitted it, he told me there had been a few others, but that she is the one who is worth it.

He left me on June 19, and moved into her house. I ended having to be the one who filed. I got an attorney because he just wanted to go, leaving me with the mortgage and all the bills—taking all his retirement and K.

He took this woman to meet his family after Christmas. Everyday is torture for me—being married to someone who is treating another woman like his wife, and he her husband.

I pray for him, and grudgingly try to pray for her also. We even talked about him together … all the while she was sleeping with him. I feel betrayed by the both of them. If I take him back again will he continue to cheat on me?

Is it worth it to be his doormat—his backup plan? Kasumi, Clearly what your husband is doing is not right. You should not be the doormat, or the backup plan, and our Marriage Recovery video series talks more about that. However, as bad as everything seems, yes your marriage is salvageable. However, saving it will mean putting your marriage on a different path to keep another affair from happening in the future. We can help you with that. I could never do that to another human being.

My husband has been with a home wrecking woman, if you can call her that, for nearly 7 years. She is an awful human being who stops at nothing to flaunt her affair with my husband.

I understand that he is no longer in love with me, however, I cannot accept that he is with this horrible human being. He is my heart and I would pick him every single time. Our son is a reminder of happier times.

Tina, I am sorry for your pain. There is a lot of hurt that occurs when your husband has an affair. Let us know if we can help. Then I found that she like her Boss by checking her phn then I ask her She said we are friend after another day I spoke with her she said he is the person who understand her most its feels like they are made for each other , I do not accept this since we married each other and our vows were forever till death do us part.

I really need prayers for my marriage to not end, Please help us with your prayers and God bless you all. I will definitely keep you in my prayers. I pray that your wife will see what is happening and choose differently. I also pray that God would give you the strength, courage, and knowledge to do whatever you can do to save your marriage even though right now it may seem hopeless.

I knew my estranged spouse for 15 years prior to us getting married in There were many things he put me through shortly after we got married when things began to come to light in In , he walked out on me and the marriage. Up to date, I learned through facebook that he went right into a relationship shortly after leaving me and is now engaged. What should I do? Are you still married, or are you divorced?

I strongly recommend tuning in to our live, call-in radio program that is on MarriageRadio. Joe Beam, the marriage expert, would be able to ask you the questions that you need to help you think through how to proceed.

My husband and i have been married for almost twelve years and have seemed to hit our lowest point. From the beginning it is clear to me now that we never set boundary lines. Seems like every year we keep coming back to the point of him and other women. I can admit my faults in snooping through his phone, online,his bag, and even recorded his phone conversation while me and our child was gone. At one point i was over it and resorted to someone else as well.

After we lost our child in he wanted to separate because i had been through his phone tge same day i lost the baby. I evolved with this man but never pushed my husband away instead i reached for him even more but he continued to push away. I ended the relationship with that man after realizing that the connection i was looking for could only come from God.

Time went along and we continued to go through this cycle of other women. His words are just words to me. With this last instance ki asked him did he love this woman our was he in love with this woman and he said that he loved her as a person.

He also said that he cut off communication with her. I honestly want to trust and forgive him but i also have a hard time forgiving myself. Please pray for our marriage and our family. My husband and I just celebrated 22 years of marriage, and 27 years together, I am 46 and he is A few months ago his best friend died, and my husband has been going thru a difficult time, he has even said he is going thru his midlife crisis.

He has always gamble in casinos once in a while, but all of the sudden he has been going to this one casino a lot, sometimes times in a week for the past couple of weeks or so. He also told one of his friends that he is smitten with this girl. Been married to my wife over 30 yrs. Two kids, etc… I recently caught her texting a local man on Easter sunday of all days.

Maybe GOD was sick of me working sundays anyway, i lost it. I went nutz for 3 weeks. Im not sure I can get passed this, its eating me up. She is my one and only since I can remember. My husband and I have only been married 18 months. He just told me he is in love with my 25 yr old daughter and wants to leave me. My husband and I have been married 8 years, he has a history of depression, and addiction to pills. During our marriage, my husband battled alcohol, depression, and pills.

It was a roller coaster, the first couple years everything was good. The last years, he was laid off from work frequently, drink alcohol, and be very lazy. We fell behind on our mortgage, I always handled the bills, but could not afford paying for everything myself.

Even when he received unemployment benefits he would not contribute. I always tried to get him help,or at least encourage he seek treatment for his depression. He was in rehab January , and when he came out, all he did was lay around on the couch, this built up some much resentment and angry, that I started talking mean to him, belittling him.

In December , we received foreclosure notice for our home, I had tried to save our home on 2 occasions where we were able to modify our mortgage, but of course defaulted because he was again laid off.

I told him over the years that if we foreclosed that I would leave him. So, in January I left the home and got an apartment. He went into rehab then. I always loved my husband despite the turmoil, but just had enough of his irresponbility. I unfortunately reconnected with an x-boyfriend who was also separated from his wife, that relationship was brief and did not work out. My husband did get sober, and did not find out about my relationship until after it was over.

He was willing to forgive me, but I was still not completely ready, just wanted more time for him to prove himself to me. I decided just to do me and not date. Well beginning of June, and we had been in contact this whole time, I found out he was seeing someone since April.

Of course I flipped out because I thought he would always want me and love me. Now he is seeing her and me at the same time, but I have become the side piece. She has threatened to not see him anymore unless he files for divorce with me this week. I am sure he is lying to her, but he is telling me that he is not filling at least not now, he loves me but is scared I will hurt him by cheating on him, which I never did until after our separation. He is coming over to talk to me tommorrow, because I told him he needs to either divorce me or move on with her.

Last week, the other woman found out he had been seeing me, and after fighting with the both of us, he finally did tell me he loved her. However, now this week he is saying he is not in love with her like that, but is scared I will hurt him after a couple of months. Please pray for us!! And let me know if there are any services you offer in NJ, if our talk goes well tomorrow. He has been very nice to me this week, even showing more respect and caring.

He is also finally sober. This month I discovered that wife is in love with another man, and when I confronted her she told me that she cannot love me again.

They work together and this is the second time they have fallen for each other with 4 months. The first time it was discovered they ended it, citing their respective marriages and children. This time they both want a divorce. I am trying to slow the process down to buy some time as I still love my wife and want to keep our family and marriage in tact. I would appreciate any thoughts, advice or prayers. Hello im in a crisis my wife and i have been together for almost 12 yrs married for five this month.

We have seperated five weeks ago when i found out she was kissing another man at work. I did get upset and say some things not meaning to. I know this didnt just happen over nite her wanting to seperate. We hqve had ups and down as most couples have but this time i have finally come to the realization of what she has needed fron me and askin for. I have been distqnt and depressed and blocked out my hole famuly at time especially her and her needs.

Ive been controlling and not kept any stability in our lives. Among other things i havent seen because ive been so distant and blind to what is going on.

I desperatly want my wife back home but she has started seeing this other guy and pushed me out emotionally and physically. Refuses to discuss reconciling at this point and says she is in a different place than i am on it all. She says she dont know if she wants a divorce but knows she has to have space and time away from me but remain freinds.

Ive since been as calm as can be and better understanding on how she and i have gotten to this point in our marriage. She says she loves me and i know that and i love her. But it takes more than love she says and i know that.

Im working hard to improve my ways of thinking and reacting to things. She told me to go out on dates and get out that i need to find out for sure our family is what i want. I already know it is and dont beleive dating othr women is right. I love my wife and want her to be able to give me her heart back. I am so sorry for what has happened. Right now, the best thing you can do is start working on those things that would make her want to come back.

Be the man that she needed before…that will help bring her back to you. Married 24 years and my spouse strayed and left me for good. I am so hurt. I am very disappointed with myself for allowing this to happen to me! I am so hurt that he once again took advantage of me knowing how much I loved him!!!!! Telling me that I have no proof of his infidelity. But the truth is I know that its true because one friend of ours confirmed it. I also saw the missed calls of the other woman in his phone.

He told me that its over, that he dont want me anymore and still insisting that he has no other woman. By the way, before this arguments happened I sent a message to the other woman on facebook and beg her to stop whatever is happening to them, and that woman also keeps on denying that they have a relationship and she doesnt even know my husband.

But I have the proof which I keep to myself because Im afraid that when I give the proof to my husband he will leave us and he will choose the other woman over us. My wife left me for my dad this past Friday. Please pray for us. I have begged my wife to come back for the past 3 days and today and she says that she does not ever see us getting back together.

She is a good person who has done a bad thing. I want her back badly. My wife and I have been married for almost 14 years, recently I discovered she had been having an affair with a coworker for almost 4 months. I ask anyone that reads this to please keep us in your prayers. And truly is the love of my life. I miss her dearly…. I also encourage you to join our private Facebook group called Save My Marriage where many other people are finding guidance and encouragement in the midst of marriage crisis: I have been married to my wife for 16 years now.

About 5 years ago, under my wifes pressure to get friends, I found a female friend that I became friends with and my hopes were that she could help me open up to my wife.

My wife over time had started to pull away from me out of fear I would have an affair and she asked me to stop talking to this woman. I kept telling my wife that she was silly because I thought I could resist any temptation. Two years ago I started to have feelings for this other woman and started talking to her A LOT over a 3 month period.

I becane infatuated with all of the attention I was receiving as my wife continued to pull away. It came to the point after those 3 months that this other woman had told me she loved me and I responded with the same. My wife confronted me about our many thousands of text messages each month a few days after this happened and I denied any involvement with her.

I remained friends with her for 3 months after and refused any attempts at counseling with my wife. I had an emotional affair with this other woman and after thise 3 months I finally pulled my head out of my bottom because my wife asked for a divorce and broke everything off with the other woman. Things started getting better between my wife and I but I still lied about my involvement with the other woman.

Fast forward 18 months and God had really been working in my heart to admit everything to my wife and I finally did last October.

I continue to give her more and more space to the point where I only talk to her once a day. Well, Mark, you were right in holding off separation as long as possible. You need extreme intervention right now. I know it may sound impossible, but I would really encourage you to look into our 3 day workshop for marriages in crisis. You can find out more about it here: I also encourage you to join our private Save My Marriage Facebook group by clicking here: I am struggling with a huge decision.

I have been with my husband 11 years and married for 7 years. In things started to go down hill. He was not communicating with me and never really has or showed emotion.

I feel he neglects me and does not care about me. I feel alone even when he is there. Feels like no love and no spark and we would barely ever have sex maybe times a month. I am 31 and he is He tells me to find another man. And it is ok. I can leave and come back and do what I want. This hurts I feel he does not love me. He left in to work and I barely talked to him. I started talking to men but nothing serious. I forgot about it and moved on and dated. It was not working with the other men.

So I decided to concentrate on myself. Then when I least suspect it a man comes into my life. My husband lived and worked in another city but came home this year march when he was laid off. He knows I am dating this man. So this man only together 2 months. But he is everything I want and need and desire.

The passionate side and emotional, intellect side, everything is there. It is scary but good scary. He wants to marry me and have a kid and so do I. Now my husband finally talks to me and opens up after I want to leave. My new partner is beyond words to explain the love we have for eachother. He is my everything and we share everything together. Does he constantly brush you off?

Ladies, he's probably dating someone else and doesn't want to make time for you. Just remember, pick yourself up a bit, dust yourself off and grab a new man! When an ex makes things public with another girl, it's awkward for his ex. If you caught wind that your ex is dating someone else, you might want to just talk to him about it.

Maybe see if you can hear it from him specifically. Let's say that you do have a ton of plans with your ex and suddenly, he starts to cancel them. This could absolutely be a sign that his attention is with someone else. Don't take it personal though, just go on, make a few dates with your girlfriends and maybe see if you can find a new guy to hook up with! Figuring out if your ex dating someone else is hard to deal with at first.

This is especially true if you're still stuck on your ex. Well ladies, there are ex dating someone else signs that you can watch out for and these are just the top 10 that I have.

What are some tips that you've seen when your ex is dating someone else? Come on, share 'em! Again, he tells you he has to work or has to be out of town. He always shows up at your doorstep at the most unexpected times. You find it utterly romantic—that is, until you suggested a change. You asked him if you can spend the night at his place and he gives you what you know is a lame excuse. He has successfully isolated you and your relationship from every aspect of his life.

He also very rarely spends the night at your place, making you think that he just goes in and out of your life whenever he feels like it.

Come to think of it, he never even introduced you to any of his family while you have already taken him to visit your whole clan.

You like that he takes you out to these hole-in-the-wall restaurants and you enjoy the privacy in some isolated booths so you can play footsies and even sneak in a few kisses. However, you start to wonder why he keeps dating you in these places and not in more public places? Have you ever seen the inside of his wallet?

Love triangles and its confusing complications ]. But upon further investigation, you find out that he, in fact, does have a Facebook page. In fact, he entirely avoids being in the frame with you during a selfie break.

Of course, you will never go out with a married guy! And he came along looking single and available.

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what if he is dating someone else

I have read somewhere: He loves me a lot and sees the rest of our lives together.

what if he is dating someone else

I married young, and we are almost to year five. I see him as the equivalent of a platonic friend.

what if he is dating someone else

I love Sweetheart I always have we just have never had the chance to be together. I think I have a problem with relationships in general because I get this emotional affairs nothing physical even in my previous relationships… So the story with my husband. The point you made about dating lt profile login not knowing what they are looking for what if he is dating someone else. In Decemberwe received foreclosure notice for our home, I had tried to save our home on 2 occasions where we were able to modify our mortgage, but of course defaulted because he was again laid off. Reply Sorry my english is bad. I married young, and we are almost to year five.