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He thad told me he bought the ring I picked out but wasnt ready to get married. I need this article.. I have seen relatively plain looking women turn into super hot knockouts just by getting in shape, wearing clothes that flatter their body-type , and learning the kind of makeup look that turns men on. He wants you to depend on him. Do this because you truly want him and see that added happiness with him. I think its sad how were forced to rest reassured that a person can love us as we are, when in fact everyone loves a little adventure, something different either in our appearance or our behavior.

#1 reason… You’re in a relationship and the communication has broken down.

I want to know that I am understanding where you are coming from. Anyone who writes in text speak or says I heart instead of I like should be avoided In North Africa like in many parts of the Middle East, sex without marriage is considered unacceptable. These tips can help keep a healthy relationship strong, or repair trust and love in a relationship on the rocks. Among the Karen people in Burma and Thailand , women are expected to write love poetry and give gifts to win over the man.

You do not want to over nurture him or act like a Mother to him at all. This will only make him see his efforts are working on you and he will continue doing them. Third he must understand through your actions as a woman that your happiness does NOT depend on him or his mental state. He must also feel your respect for him is unwavering UNLESS he does something to ruin that through not-so-nice means or games.

Never forget this type of man may NEVER be turned or made to stop ignoring you or made to suddenly become someone different. M en will go silent or ignore you for six main reasons. There are many circumstances that happen to you personally, but when you break down the inner mind of men, their silence starts in one or more of them. Knowing those reasons could effectively change how you understand men and why they do they things they do.

I found a guy on Tinder, was instantly attracted towards him as he was sophisticated, funny, handsome and all the other good things in the world. And he seemed to be interested in me as well. We texted each other every day and after a couple of weeks, we met at a bar and ended up spending the rest of the night at his place. So, we happened to meet up once again and this time in the comfort of him being at his place!

All that said and done, my problem is that he is not the one who is expressive about what he wants. But he calls and checks on me once in a while. Guys read actions better than words. Hey, I hear you. I know exactly what it feels like to go for the quick fix, or to give in to temptation, or to settle for short-term over long-term when the short-term feels so freaking good.

Some men put up that carrot and let women chase them indefinitely, BUT some men just go with the flow and women dangle their own hopes and dreams on the end of the stick.

Sometimes HOPE is not a good thing especially when it comes to dating, relationship, sex, and the lottery. Tell him exactly how you feel. Get it all out. Just have a real conversation and it will take care of itself one way or another.

So, I started dating one of my very best friends. We had been friends for 11 years prior to dating. So, true statement or not? Notify me of follow-up comments by email.

Notify me of new posts by email. From Katie and Gay Hendricks: Phil From Help Guide. A trusted non-profit guide to mental health and well-being: Are You Being Ignored? Why men go silent and ignore women. From the narcissistic to the self-centered man and how to spot them before they hurt you. What really happens when YOU ignore a guy and how it makes him feel. PLUS Letter after letter designed to answer all your questions about guys.

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I have the same situation, what did you do? All the best, Pete. Real Fears or Bullshit? Pole Dancing — Erotic or Not? Do You Approach Him? Im crazy about a guy but on our 2nd and last date, I was just acting weird—cold and distant, trying to not let him see how much I liked him. Is there anything I can do now to fix this or undo it?

I want to tell him I was not myself that night and ask him to give me another chance. Is this a good idea, or is it too much me pursuing him? Then, you second-guess yourself and think you screwed it up.

If you trace it back, do you see this cycle underneath how things played out for you? Do you see it as how your actions came about and why you acted the way that you did? You want them, so you fantasize about how great it would be to have them.

Then you grow attached to that fantasy… and then you fear that the bubble will be burst in reality, so you make some move because of your fear. It is a natural unfolding of connection that comes as a byproduct of your enjoyment of each other. It would be so great to have this friend! Oh no, what do I do?! It all comes down to this: Are you able to be OK right now… as you are… where you are… how you are?

Can you be OK where you are at this moment? Or… will you be like the majority of the people in our society… who feel like they need something outside of themselves to be OK? To have a baby? To buy a house? To get a cool car? I really love this response. Over and over again I meet guys who i really like. I create a fantasy of our perfect life together and as soon as I get excited about them, they stop calling. Then I freak out and go over every detail of the date wonder what little thing I did that made them go from being really into me, to not texting me.

Ok, so I understand that the problem is that I have this fantasy and I really like the guy. I have hobbies and a social life, but I would still really love a boyfriend. Wow, this is me! My question is where can I find more literature on this topic? Thanks for honest relationship advice. You are clearly a smart man!: Love what you said about market value. Learning your worth and value is so important. This is so helpful to see the impact of this. Hello Eric, Thank you for all of your relationship advice.

I have someone that loves, respects, and is always there for me. This article convinced me to live in the moment and enjoy every minute of it. Hi Eric Im from Iran, I read your websites and articles by accident. But it was a great accident. At the same time My boy friend broke up with me and I could concure with my feeling with reading your articles. I also suggest your articles to my friends and every one i knew.

I want to Thank you for opening my eyes to a new world. Ive had two bad relationships, and honestly want something really casual with this guy from work I think is cute. Im also about to move cross country, and dont want a long distance relatiohip. I asked a guy friend to do some asking for me, and my friend said my crush reacted surprised but happy when my friend told him I liked him.

He said sure, yes, pulled out his phone and I just handed him my cell number. Im very new to all this, so what should I do? Ill see him at work tomorrow and dont want it to be awkward. In that scenario, is it okay to tell him I dont feel comfortable doing anything behind kissing right now? My past two relationships abused me in this area, and I dont want to scare him off with messiness or by being too prudish.

I have a question. You mention that women should not neglect to wear make-up to help themselves look their best. But I do want to look attractive for a man. Can you offer guidance on what style of make-up most normal men find attractive?

Bright red lipstick vs more subdued tones? The best evidence for what men find most attractive is found in looking in places that have an exclusively male audience. In this day and age, I would not look at mainstream media at all for guidance in what men find attractive. I would have the same advice for men, by the way….

So start there and I think you will be amazed at how different you find what men want versus what women-oriented media tells you. They have no political agenda they want to indoctrinate you with. With regards to androgeny… and this is not a political or social statement… it is biologically sexually repellant to look non-female. If you want to attract men, emphasize your woman-ness.

If you like the androgynous look and you want it for yourself, more power to you. In fact, there are some guy friends of mine that love women with the androgynous look.

Just like there are some guys I know that love a woman with tattoos or any other presentation you can imagine. And, again, I have to emphasize you should focus on the NICHE of men you want to attract — pro-Athletes on average tend to like one type of woman… nerdy punk rock rebel type guys tend to prefer another… musicians tend to prefer another… and so on, so forth.

I can only tell you the best place to look — one free of corporate motivations and political-agendas. Hope it helps and good luck! Thanks a lot Eric.

This article has really enlightened me now I know what my man wants. Thanks for the comment. Thank you for all the info. You really know your stuff. I worked with him for 3 months before any of this happened. And then I saw a huge smile come on his face. Our eyes meet then his eyes go straight down to my chest then a little lower and then he tilts his head and goes back up to my chest then breaks contact. What is that saying about this situation? What was he trying to tell me?

What do u think? Lol oh and he used to talk about his wife always nagging and would tell his buddies that he very rarely has sex with her. Just some more info for you! I broke up with my ex 3 months ago. I found out he was cheating on me with a girl his been dating for 3 years. After we broke up he went on a date with her to celebrate their 3 year anniversary but he told me they were celebrating 3 years of friendship which i do not believe.

We started talking after our break up. I asked him if he still dating that girl he refused. I asked him back he refused because he wants to concentrate on his career and he says we might get back in future 3years from now. I asked him if he really loved me and had feelings for me while we dated he said yes. Since then we have been talking. I told him i want to get over him but I have failed to do so because he always comes back into life such as him sending 25 pictures of himself.

I told him I found a rebound to get over him his response was ok. I sent him a message telling him I would have appreciated if you picked up my calls or told me me you would not come, the journey between us ends today. Did i do anything wrong? Does he still love me?

Does he want space? Does he still love his girlfriend who he calls the ex? My ex won me over my previous boyfriend. Lies turn me off but everytime he lied to me i did not get turned off. On 2 occasions he compared me to his ex just because she is intelligent and studying medicine and i am studying law and i keep repeating courses. He even went to on to say i am threatened by her which is not true.

I want to know why he has not responded to any of my calls and messages even though he has seen them? And is he worth it? I love him because of his personality. We both have a sense of humour. We always make each other laugh.

He carries himself in a respectful and responsible manner. He acts mature, but after all this I have gone through i am doubting if he is mature at all. At that time i did not think he was cheating and i did not want any reassurance all I wanted was for me to talk to him just for my entertainment. Eric, a lot of this is true. Men are quite visual — they care about a pretty face and body over your income.

They care about a warm smile and a soft tone over your job title or where you went to college. Unfortunately, a lot of confident, successful women find this to be a tricky balance. How can we over-succeed a man without emasculating him? Most of what you said is support-driven. Especially the successful ones. I wish there was a better answer for the more nuanced city-style relationship. This is the crap that gets babbled about in magazines.

Even still, it would be your best strategy to find a guy who will line up with what you want…. If he were to break up with me tomorrow and we were no longer dating and never would ever again, would I still like this person on a human level? Would I still find him interesting? Would I still find him good? Would I still want to be friends with him?

Relationships are really simple and reveal themselves in plain view. Always has been, always will be. BUT the more picky you are with the relationship style you want, the more picky you need to be about WHO you select… select well and everything is easy and effortless by effortless I mean that even the parts of the relationship that take work never feel like work… the whole spectrum of the relationship is joyful in its own ways, even the challenging parts ….

How am I going to go get it? I really love your articles. They are truly helpful and I love your way of talking about men and women without making silly generalizations… Thank you also for taking the time to write these. Two weeks ago he came to my place for dinner.

He asked me if I had a boyfriend and then I asked him if he did. Would you have any advice for me? What should I do? Thank you so much. Eric, I found myself searching for the million dollar question we all want to know. Now Eric, I must tell you. I am a 44 year old woman. And have been married twice. And divorced both times. My last hitting its 16 year mark that I have been single. Now I have had relationships here and there.

I really do hate the whole dating game. I feel I know nothing more than I did when I was 16 about men. I actually found it very insightful. And I look forward to writting you back to let you know what happens. On the trip we really got to know each other, flirted and joked a little and since I was the only single girl there, he definitely paid extra attention to me by hiding my items or sitting on me or deliberately ripping me off and getting a reaction out of me.

Once we went home we talked for two weeks straight and then things started to dwindle. But eventually he wanted photos from me. Then when we went to another event together he picked up where we left off, sat next to me and only spoke to me.

What does this mean? Am I wasting my time or am I making a mountain out of a molehill? First off — how long have you been going out? Less than a year and maybe even 2 years and I doubt you are on the same page.

How old are you two? If you are pretty young it is rare in this day and age to get married. Eric, keep up the great work. Somewhere along the way, we made relationships difficult and confusing.

Being open to it, loving ourselves and accepting it. Thank you for making a difference. One thing about superficial aspects: So trying to get over him. He thought I thought he was a toy.. I just recently met a man online and I ended up sleeping with him on the first date.

I really like this guy and I think there may be potential for us to mesh well. Thank you for your insight,a mans point of view is extremely helpful. Ive dated a man for 9 months,he is very good to me. He was married for 30 years,so dating is foreign to him it seems.

However I was with him over a 4 day and night period,in which there was effort put forth by me sexually but hardly any by him towards me,totally different than usual. Ive brought it out in conversation and we get interrupted phone calls and its not brought up by me or him.

Thanks for your time T. If not, I cannot lose. For women who think they can just show up without working out or dressing well etc. A good man deserves to feel good about his choices, just like women do. Nobody deserves the misery that comes from that situation. We should have just stayed friends. Instead we drove each other crazy for years. Thanks so much Erik, for being a voice of reason in the sea of silly pandering.

Your partner in crime has excellent advice, too! If I can offer some constructive criticism, though, that goofy movie has to go. I will leave a comment. I want a partner to go through life with. I want a friend, partner, and lover. It may be asking too much. Ultimately, my approach and opinion have remained the same: I want to help people by telling them what works and what is effective.

In that way, there were certain concepts that people would ask about or talk about that are not as discussed nowadays. Six years ago, people were frequently asking me to talk about the concept of neediness.

If it were up to me, though, I never would have ventured to talk about neediness since a lot of what I talk about precludes neediness from being an issue if you approach a relationship effectively.

Make your mood your top priority — live in a happy way. When you make your mood your priority and you allow happiness to be your guide, it becomes really easy to naturally and effortlessly attract love into your life. When I find myself unhappy about something, I have taken your advice and looked inward.

Then I choose happy and have actually been told I am fun by the person with whom I thought I was having an issue. Everything you have said is the truth, but you left out the MOST important thing especially after having thrived for 20 years with a high market-value woman: Attitude is the underlying foundation for everything you have stated Eric, and when it comes down to it, [ladies] attitude informs and influences everything a man is drawing upon to approach, win, love and keep a woman.

Conversely, a man who is drawn to a bad attitude has a mental instability — like immaturity or a sociopathy… I mean, really, who seeks out drama like that?!?

I need to know do I give him space or continue to chat? My boyfriend has so much interest in me but i get too emotional and it dos put him off. Thanks for your advice.. Does he loves me truly?? Thank you for your really good and insightful articles. I am a widow, aged He left his life behind, half a world away, to be with me.

Then he left me after 6 months. Then 5 weeks later came back to me. Then after 4 weeks, he left me again. The reason he wanted me was because he knows that I am a winner and he has always felt like a loser in life.

I inspired him to be the best man he ever could be and beyond … He loved the way I understood his goals, aspirations and dreams.

The way I supported and encouraged him. The way I was his biggest cheerleader! So, why did he run away? I really enjoy your columns. I find them eye-opening and straight to the point. Your frankness is priceless. Today, I am feeling so tired. I have been reading all the help tips about relationships and I still feel like a woman of convenience. We work together and he works 2 jobs, has no time and is exhausted all the time, so I am so tired of doing all the work.

Our relationship has died down and while I am trying to be supportive and encourage him, I am beat. I am a very upbeat gal and have lots of friends; however, I am a giver and I think that is hurting me. I am trying to hold back from that, but it is hard for me and I do it without thinking. He is very handsome and women are always throwing themselves at him. I think I have given up at this point.

I am tired of the cancellations and promises that he does not keep. I get my hopes up and then they come crashing down. I stay busy and do other things but I am disappointed. I am so sorry to be so negative, it is nothing to do with your advice, I think your advice is wonderful. I am tired of being the one that has to do all the work. I know he likes me, but maybe that is what it is, he likes me and that is the furthest it is going to go.

I have been so upbeat through this whole thing, and now, I am beaten down. It is too much work! This is a really good article, so technically what your saying is a woman should really learn how to belive in herself be happy with her life and love herself a men will be interested in that and want to be with her because she can help him grow she inspires him to do better ….

So this is why I say making your mood the primary focus of your life is so important for relationships: Conversely, if your mood is great, it will shine through all of your other great qualities and you will shine brightly and attract love from every angle. Eric- The article is great.

Precise and on point. I totally get what you are saying and although I thought I understood men, I was missing the final piece of the puzzle the winning part. What do you do in that type of situation? I had the same question. You said not to focus on his career. I might have misunderstood that. Perfect…exactly what I did!

Thanks for the article! I have one question, and it is a bit long. So, there are three very beautiful girls standing side by side. Each one has an entirely different personality, but they look identical. The first one is extremely confident and outgoing. She knows she is beautiful, smart, and an amazing person, but she can seem a little bitchy at times.

No matter how many times you compliment her, she refuses to believe it. She is kinda depressed, although she does an amazing job of hiding it. She is the kind of girl who would help everyone, despite the fact that she is in serious need of help herself but she would never ask. Then the third girl is very complicated.

She knows that she is beautiful, but sometimes she refuses to admit it. She likes to joke around about it too. She is hyperactive but also calm. She is humble but confident, and she is very smart. She is a sweet person, but sometimes a little bitch can show up. She immediately apologizes and feels bad if she says something rude, or if she hurts someone. She tries her best to fix broken friendships even if they are beyond repair She alway tries to help, and she puts others before herself.

A little greediness can show up once in a while, and sometimes she cries over random things. She is emotional and moody. When she is in a relationship, she loves with all her heart.

Her heart is very fragile. When it gets broken it takes forever to heal, and she builds bigger walls every time. She is both shy and outgoing, depending on the situation. Now that you have the details, I would like to know which girl you like the most. Remember, all of them are gorgeous in your eyes. We have a sort of relationship,but not in public. We talk and text on telefon,meet each other for dinner or just a cup of coffee.

I sleep over once in a while. He knows that I want to make plans with him, want him to make me a priority. He has told me things from a earlier relationship. He has had hope for a new start. I think he is a man that needs time to trust a woman again,but do you think i just hope to much? You are already being a doormat. That is NOT a relationship. You have your answer. Yes, you are hoping too much. Thank You for your answer.

I can see why your answer is like that. I wonder if we humans are to busy finding love, so we miss someone good, kind and gentle along the road……. I asked for advice. Your answer is to cut him off. Whom are you Carrie? We talk but he want me to fulfill his needs, then we can move on to the next step.

I could not agree more with most above statements. No one is attracted to desperation. I live a full, juicy, vibrant life outside, of dating. More, than one man at a time non sexually until exclusive. Anyhow, great article and I agree with points. Have a good evening! I actually even like just imagining showing someone something I truly enjoy, for this reason — it feels new each time.

Especially if the guy tends to be more introverted, i. I disagree about sex being such a high-priority item in relationship building.

Based on my own observation and experience, if sex comes first, the relationship tends to stop there and not develop any further, 1. After talking to many thousands of men and women, I can tell you there are more examples than I can count of happy committed couples that had sex on the first date.

They committed to a deeper relationship not because of the sex, but because of the relationship. My opinion on it and all of what I write is just my opinion is that it puts the focus on the wrong things.

Worse, it maintains the false idea that the most valuable aspect of her is her sex and not the actual reasons why a man would want to choose her as a woman to connect to. Loved the introvert statement.

Intorvert women are the same. It actually took a lot of energy for me to tell a guy that I felt that he was holding back. My live in boyfriend of 2 years issed me goodbye one morning to play golf with friend, said he loved me then didnt come home for 4 nights.

We did have the not ready talk the night before, but he said he didnt want to brreak up and I was the one. He thad told me he bought the ring I picked out but wasnt ready to get married. I told him we could still engaged and have a long engagement.

Two weeeks before he he gave me a card that said he couldnt imagine life without me and he was looking forward to the future. He knows I hate it when he goes out and doesnt come home becausse he drank to much.

He was ignoring my 2 phone calls and my texts asking him what was going on and why he wasnt coming home. He responded he was fine and would be home later, then didnt come again and I saw pictures with him out with friends.

He was spending days and nights at his parents and his sisters. So on the 5th day I packed his stuff up, found the ring and took evverything to his parents. He did text that afternoon saying he was coming to change for work and no other comment. By then I had changed the locks and had his things packed.

I gave the ring to his mom and his things said I didnt know what happened, but deserved a conversation. He has never talked to me since and it has been 3 months. We loved each other and had a plan for the future. Should I have moved him out or waited? This has happened before and we had broken up in the past because of similiar issues. We are both the I am an RN and getting my masters.

He has another year to get his undergrad and is a bartender at our country club where my family belongs, where I met him. I have reached out and he responded that we could get our schedules together and talk. I sent him some times, but he never called. Im just trying to understand how we could from A to Z like that….

I kknow he was planning on coming home when he left! Was it a little of both…. When women stop over analyzing their moves and a stop caring about a guys intentions Is when we can actually enjoy the relationship for what it is and stop depending on it for happiness. Because they think of you as a positive moment in time and then want to spend more time with you.

Weirdest of all is: I only recently discovered this myself, with my new guy. As a woman with a life of her own, takes care of herself physically, a mother of an almost 22 yr old boy; I will tell you, you hit every nail on the head Eric! I appreciate every article still have many to catch up on to the fullest. A woman should want to keep her man interested at all stages in the relationship. Keep up the great work! Hey Eric, I have looked at your Facebook page mainly out of curiosity, and I am starting to see why you have the point of view you do.

Not to say I disagree with what you are saying I agree whit a lot of it. But you seem to have this opinion of how you like woman to look and make it out to be that this is how most men feel. So I wonder do most men really feel this way or do you write about what you like because it is your job, to share your knowledge of what men want. Also I am sure the men you are around like a similar lifestyle to you weather they are married or not.

I feel that most men do want women who are completely themselves but still take pride in their appearance. I feel like an ugly hater who rags on beautiful women, which is not the case you can look on my Facebook I am not.

Also I have been asked by my boyfriend many times why I try so hard and spend time doing my make up and hair when I am a mom and no one expects me to, he says I should just be natural.

So my question to that is why does he say that? I hope to hear your I out on this! Sexual attraction is an important factor in a relationship, but far from the only important factor. Same goes for everyone. Saying loose weight or dress sexy is insulting, I am a mother of two I have been pregnant the past two years. I am not heavy set but I do weigh more than before I had children. I feel this is how shallow men feel.

My man hates heavy make up and sexy clothes. He is far more into me dressing casual or even sporty. It all comes down to the same thing pleasing your man. Being healthy is far more important than being thin and no they are not the same thing. At least not to me. It feels shallow after a while. However, I am not sure young girls will understand it cause this is something that comes with experience in life. Wish I had read this 10 years ago, it would have made my life considerably easier then ;-.

Wow you hit the hammer on the nail. Gotta up my market value. Than for this article. I think the article vividly points out why most of my female friends have one failure after another in relationship, and they always end up in the same way: Most of the women devalue themselves without knowing it, and they rarely think about what they can offer in a relationship.

The sex, the looks both can encourage relationships, but neither can keep men or sustain relationships. Dear Eric, I have been reading your articles and you keep saying, wear makeup and be feminine. I used to wear makeup but recently, there has been such a hype going around that men like women with no makeup at all. Apparently they think when you put makeup on, either you are hiding something or trying too hard, which comes off as a turn off.

I used to love wearing makeup but now I hardly wear any, im scared that men will think im trying too hard. And I know how much is too much, I just like enhancing my best features. So my question to you is what makeup look do you think is sexy, playful, nice? Do you think women are trying too hard when they put makeup on? How much would be too much in your opinion? Thank you, I just read like 5 of your blogs back-to-back and this one had the most impact—super helpful.

I think the part about what men want and what they want in women helped me the most. I work with Prince Roku and he and I had been eye balling each other for quite some time until one day he just popped in my office, made small talk and asked me out on a date. Nothing ended in a bad way or anything, we are just both in the midst of a crazy busy season at work. Any concrete examples would be appreciated. This website is pure science. I enjoyed this article. I am certain I would not have sex with him until I decide it is best.

I am willing to take a step back and approach him more as a friend although I have already romanticized with him. I understand his desires, attraction to me and faults. I support him completely. I do understand that I need to give him time to miss me but I feel I understand my motivations for being with him and as I said before those are all positive reasons. If he has won me and I support him, have made him feel like a winner and understand his desires…is it ok to approach him as a friend?

I have a problem with my boyfrnd. I give him my time even wen he was sick I took care of him. Honey you need to take care of you! I know how being pregnant with a non committed man feels and you are too good for that and not only that you have bigger things to worry about.

Conga durations and I wish you the best! Hey Eric, I founf ur article relevant in my current situation. Youre saying here that i shud date other guys or go out with other guys to make him feel that anytime alot of guys will snatched me if he will not do his part to take me his own.

My question is what if i go out with other guys and he knew it then well tou guys think to date other women to make it fair enough? Its like you guys will think that if us gurls can go out with others guys why cant u also do it? Your article is so special and love every word of it! I believe it will definitely help me out and do you sell books I can buy and I feel finally I got the point.

I guess the articles you write and the advice you have in each one of them is just better than probably any of those relationship and dating website.! They are always of great help. Of course this all applies to men who actually are open to exclusive relationships. I really loved this article. It really breaks it down for us girls to what men like, and how to make it known to him that we are interested in us liking what they like to get intimate with him.

Also teaches us women how men see women, what category they place us at and why. Please write an article as to ladylike manners, how a lady should dress… I love your writing work, you are amazing!!! Thank you for being honest and real. I have been reading your advise for a couple months. We are really good friends since then. We hooked up twice in those 20 years and have always seen each other as more than just friends, we care about eachother alot.

He got out of a 13 years relationship with a woman that really tore his self esteem down mentally destroyed him. A child with her is involved, and she uses that against him alot, to manipulate him. We have had a long talk about relationships and he says to me….: He never said anything except that he understood.

With in a week, we hung out with his mom, our mutual friends, and his sisters. Who All mean alot to him, they are his roots and foundation. Mind you i have known them just as long as i have known him, just not on the same level as him.

My question is…am i wasting my time on something that will not go anywhere? I dont know if im wasting my time. I really care about him obviously, he is like my best friend and i dont want to lose our friendship over this of it doesnt work out. I had no idea men were so complicated! I kind of freaked, like most women would, I suppose, so I did a Google search and found this article.

Thank you very much. I love your approach. I have homework to do for sure. I found this article interesting and pretty on point.

I can see how all of these things make a big difference. My question is, what is your opinion on just being yourself? Or should they all, and always, be this woman that you described?

Your physical beauty, clothing, make-up, hair, etc. Your negative mood could be worried… angry… sad… deceitful… jealous… spiteful… hateful… afraid of loss… etc. Your negative vibe is the external clue to other people that they should avoid you. On the other hand, when you are in a good mood internally, you give off a good vibe to other people and you attract love to you.

Yes, we all have bad moments or even bad days… and when negative feelings come up, we acknowledge them and we allow them to pass through us. You can feel a negative emotion, let it pass through you and never have to feed into it. So, to tie this up: I need this article.. My relationship is always in chaos bc my negative vibe. I try so hard to be positive. I have to practice good vibe to reap a successful life. Wow…you just managed to improve on perfection, Eric! Thanks for adding this extra nugget to an already complete article.

Very interesting article, certainly hit the nail on the coffin on relationships.. We parted on good terms and I once asked him why he liked me so much that night he met me I was not his type at all!

He told me he walked into the bar and saw me wearing an Astros shirt and surrounded by 10 guys, and there was no way he was leaving without talking to me.

He said he had to meet me because I liked sports and every other guy seemed to want to talk to me. Hahaha…what a great experience, Mel! Wow, this is the second article I read from you and it blows my mind!!! It is so good and so true!!! Keep up the good work….. Hi, I just wanted to ask a quick question: I have no idea what to think and how I should react…. I really enjoyed reading this article. It was very informative and will help me improve myself.

Thank you Eric for this article. I really loved ready it. It has helped me to understand so many things that motivate the man I have been dating. He says he never wants to go through that again.

Thus saying, he has no intentions in living with anyone again, etc. I love him dearly and am trying not to change him. I have just recently expressed to him that since he does not envision himself with me for the long term, that maybe we should part as friends before we become resentful of each other. It is only then when he starts to do the things that I had expressed to him I love i. At this point, our lives are so intertwined with our activities, the kids, that breaking up seems harder than I thought.

And I tried to leave explaining I am respecting what he has ultimately said, he steps up again. Should I distance myself, in hopes that he will chase me? Your guidance is so appreciated. I have bought several of the programs and am trying to understand but this seems like the step of total disconnect that scares me. Thank you again for all that you do and all you share. Omg, this article is exactly what I try to tell my friends as I call it.

Good points in here especially about being in his corner. Keep up the good work! I really enjoyed this article. It makes so much sense in the fact that men what to feel like winners. We ladies often forget that and it was a great reminder. Hi Eric Your article made me think of the positive aspects in my relationship rather than the negative which was great.

However, my man has admitted to me that he is seeing another woman. When I heard this I was obviously devastated but I have noticed our relationship has changed tremendously in the last month. Like you said that actions are what we should focus on.

He spends much more time with me now and the time is quality with lots of sharing in his behalf and laughter.

Our time together does definitely not revolve around sex but mutual sharing He has verbally told me he loves me and he shows me all the time that he does. He makes me feel special and has mentioned many things that we are to do in the future. Or is he really good at having two girlfriends? I would like to know how to make my boyfriend treat me like a woman of value. I always feel like he loved his ex girlfriend more than he would ever love me because he would always make an effort to buy her gifts and spend alot of money on her just to make her happy like taking her out on dates and clubbing, but with me he does not do the same unless I push him to.

This article is awesome,and thanks you for sharing. I have been in a relationship for almost 4yrs now with a lady who was surpose to be my wife. This lady exhibits a lot of anoying characters like keeping secrets,keeping to friends and personal advice,lack of finacial management etc. I wish she will findout this type of article exist. A lot of people have the idea that marriage will somehow change the relationship in a good way… like it would make a not-so-serious person more committed to the relationship or an untrustworthy person more trustworthy….

Your opinion matters and has validity to Randy and all of us who read your articles and are furthermore subscribed. Please keep pouring it out — of yourself to us, I mean; just my opinion! He will call or text every day then he goes cold. He comes over at first 3 times a week 2nd week about 2 times then 3rd week once a week since. We have a great time when we are together. We have the best sex ever.

But he still on plenty of fish when ask him about it he says he likes reading the profiles. I set him up my girlfriend sent him a message and he responded. So i have been avoiding phone calls and text. Again a very good informative article. It has reassured me given some of the experiences I have had with men which have not always been great. Also information that I can learn from.

Well he did break up with me.. And I was so heart broken.. I mean he is an amazing guy.. We complement each so well.. So I read your books and all the emails you send and over like 4 days I would text him my thoughts on how I felt about him and our relationship..

Remembering everything you have said never coming off as needed or that he is my world.. I replied with I just thought we complemented each other so well..

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I loved this article btw, made me laugh towards the end the way you suggested that we can re-read it to further analyze it. Always has been, always will be.

what to do if you like a guy who is dating someone else

Excellent article, thank you for the information. Online Dating by the Numbers". I agree with him.

what to do if you like a guy who is dating someone else

You won't know unless you ask him and if you're too scared liike ask, it could be a sign that your intuition is warning you he's not yet ready for that. Since people dating often do not know each other well, there is the risk of violenceincluding date rape. He listen me sometimes when I elephant journal online dating my vulnerabiltiy and cry for mother, I used to listen him sometimes bcz he only comes in contact with me sometimes he shares his vulnerabilty of failure of his business plan, looking for job, going through financial crunches, still he sometimes take out time to spend with me outside dinner and tea. What if I have a crush on my friend who is a boy? Wear a piece of jewelry that invites him to touch it and examine it closely.